Wise Future Relationships

Beware of the person you chose for a future Romatic Relationship

Because of the damage of a traumatic childhood, this could make you gravitate towards a toxic person to start a relationship with.

If you have had a narcissistic Father you may become a rescuer choosing a narcissistic person to have a relationship with in order to try and rescue someone to turn them into a better person, to prove your self worth.

However, it will cause you a lot of pain, stress, depression, arguments and many problems and will only make your addiction worse even to the point of your death.

As you go into your adult life be careful of who you choose to have a relationship with, as the other person can either make or break your happiness and make or break you.

Make sure to choose someone who will love and support you for the long term

and makes the effort to gain knowledge of your addiction and how it affects you.

Some who is not judgemental, expecting you to have stopped yesterday rather than realising it is a process to be managed for life.

So as an Empath or Co-dependant person please, please, please............ Beware of the Narcissistic partner.

The Narcissistic partner is actually quite clever and not to be underestimated. They are all about control and seeking supply from you for their own fear of abandonment and the exposing of their false wicked self.

At first they will be very charming or shy and sweet and unassuming.

They will do what is known as “love bombing”

Shower you with compliments and kisses, hanging on your every word admiring everything that makes you, You.

Your taste in music your clothes your job and general life experience.

Pretending to be the person of your dreams in order to abuse you and make your life hell afterwards.

They will want to dive into bed with you to have as much hot sex as possible

and spend all the hours God sends with you.

They will even want to very quickly move in with you and make a life with you.

Why? To win you over that’s why, so that you become putty in their hands.

Pliable malleable and just right for the next stage in their “Operation ruin you”.

Starting with their toxic deceptive bait!!

But very, very slowly or sometimes very quickly something starts to chaaaaange.

The slight criticism, the tiniest tit for tat, the little put down at home or in public.

Finding fault with the way you talk, the way you eat, the huge mess you made.

All to start chipping away at your confidence and self esteem.

Trying to break you down to be like their broken and angry selves.

This is the start of you becoming Narcissistic supply and your living Nightmare.

of their Mind Terrorism against you.

It’s going to get worse so please run in the other direction.

As an Co-dependant Empath you may feel you can rescue them or things will get better or you can save them in order to make yourself feel whole.

No you won’t and don’t waste your time.

Become a Wise Empath knowing and loving your true self.

How do you do this?

Make a conscious decision to have nothing to do with narcissists.

This will reset your internal dynamics and the type of vibe you will give out.

You will repel them and attract other wise empaths, who will value, respect and love you so that you are both singing from the same page.

The Narcissistic Relationship Characteristics

Love Bombing – Done at the beginning of a relationship to get you hooked

Contrary - Deliberately disagreeing and going against everything you say or do or want.

Nit Picking – Being critical towards you but especially in the tiniest of ways making you fell like can’t be yourself.

Arguments – Starting an argument deliberately especially before you go out

Controlling – Have to run everything by him/her

Lying – As it is

Raised voice and tone- Designed to frighten you and make you tip toe around them. Making you feel uncomfortable anxious, tongue tied and your heart racing.

Dismissive – What you regard as important is brushed to one side.

Negative Verbals - These are snide or derogatory comments of verbal attack, designed to make you feel low about yourself.

Gaslighting – Denying your true version of events.

Sulking & Silent Treatment – This is designed to punish you and isolate you to make you feel bad. Just ignore it and carry on talking to them as if nothing has happened.

Isolation – Trying to isolate you from your friends and family to manipulate you better and make you feel helpless.

Lazy – Making you do everything to make you feel as though you owe them.

Credit taking – This is after making you do everything acting as if the good result was their idea or doing.

Mind Games – These include passive aggression behaviour such as Tit for Tat, sulking, silent treatment, blanking you. Not texting you back.

Flirting in public.

Hoovering – No, not the housework type. This is the Narcissists attempt to hoover you back in after you’ve split up with them.

Usually with I promise I’ll change. I’m sorry let’s try again or things will be different this time I promise. Don’t believe it just move on to a better person that values you and themselves and who has your back.

The Narcissistic Relationship Videos

CHANNEL DOCTOR RAMANI

The Empath and the Narcissistic: A dark Fairy Tale

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BMXx5VlrMog&ab_channel=DoctorRamani

CHANNEL KATI MORTON

Being In A Relationship with a Narcissist

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvW4-gxr0Fo&ab_channel=KatiMorton

CHANNEL STEPHANIE LYN COACHING

Continuing a relationship with a narcissist?? Here's what happens!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8cuJgVZXJU&ab_channel=StephanieLynCoaching

CHANNEL DOCTOR RAMANI

Healthy vs. narcissistic relationships