This technique is the Second Stage  which consists of pulling all out the negative traits of the relevant family members and analysing how you have copied their exact Primary trait  or, if that trait has had a Secondary Effect on you, or both.

The Mapping Technique

Analyse certain family member's negative traits and how they have affected you, either by you copying the exact negative Primary trait or the affected negative Secondary trait.

E.g. you may have had a mother who was very critical so you then either become the Primary trait i.e. very critical of others yourself, or the Secondary trait where you feel like you are not good enough and don’t measure up, therefore running the risk of making you feel as you go through life that you will never be good enough.

Very soon a picture will begin to form and a much better understanding of these people and their traits and how it is affecting you in your life.

This information will really galvanize your understanding as to why you have the hang ups and addiction that you do. 

You will realise what has been lacking in your life, basically a lack of loving and nurturing relationships.

Don't do it once, but several times throughout your life.

Re-visit it, revise over it and keep it at the forefront of your mind.

Bear it in mind through out your life to always refer to.

The Mapping Technique

FATHER

1. CONTROLLING

Primary Trait - Controlling

Secondary Trait Effect – Tip toeing around people not feeling free to be yourself.

2. BE-LITTLING

Primary Trait - Belittling

Secondary Effect – Feel ashamed and inadequate.

3. Critical / Fault finding

Primary Trait – CRITICAL

Secondary Effect – Feeling that your best is never good enough.

4. WORKAHOLIC

Primary Trait - Workaholic.

Secondary Effect – Quality time with you as a child is neglected.

5. LACKING AFFECTION

Primary Trait – Lacking Affection.

Secondary Effect  – Feeling Emotionally awkward so you struggle emotionally.

MOTHER

1. OVER EMOTIONAL

Primary Trait - Over emotional

Secondary Effect – Emotionally Fearful

2. SUFFOCATING

Primary Trait - Suffocating

Secondary Effect  – Feel frustrated and angry

3. NEEDY

Primary Trait - Needy

Secondary Effect – Obliged to see to her needs.

AUNTY

1. HOT TEMPERED

Primary Trait – Hot Tempered

Secondary Effect – Anxiety especially around future hot tempered people.

2. CONTROLLING

Primary Trait - Controlling

Secondary Effect  – Tip toeing around people not feeling free to be yourself.

3. GRANDIOSE

Primary Trait – Grandiose

Secondary Effect  – Feeling that you and your tastes and lifestyle is not good enough.

4. DIFFICULT TO PLEASE

Primary Trait – Difficult to please.

Secondary Effect – A People pleaser.

GRANDMOTHER

1. CRITICAL

Primary Trait - Critical

Secondary Effect  – Feeling you don’t measure up.

2. HARSH

Primary Trait – Harsh

Secondary Effect – Hurt by her words.

3. BODY CRITICAL

Primary Trait – Body Critical

Secondary Effect  – Comfort eating because food replaces the feelings of a lack of self love, 

therefore leading to being over weight.